Saviour
A person who replenishes the anima of others and reflects an idealized image of those they save. A reflector.
Expanded explanation
Two things are being done at once and the second is what makes the role unstable. A saviour provides reanimation to those who have been depleted, which is common altruistic behaviour and the way every person begins life, through being held, nursed and spoken to, so every caregiver of a dependent person does it. What distinguishes the role is the reflection. A saviour also reflects an idealized image of those they save, which makes them a reflector and means the person being saved is being placed at a centre. From there the arrangement can go two ways. Saviours are reflectors, but once the dependency bond has been created either a martyr or a tyrant may result, so the same starting position ends at either pole depending on which way the energy settles. Saviours as endosocial predators are those who demand or accept the subordination of those they save and attempt to trap them in endogroups. Saviours may also be preyed upon, and a martyr saviour is the exo-ideal case, appearing where power lies outside the head of an organization, particularly in volunteer bodies headed by a member of a negative image class, or where a group is highly organized with a weak head. The cost of escaping the pattern is real. A saviour can escape endosocialism, but that often requires becoming isolated from relationships with those they help, which leaves the beneficiaries with a debt that must be paid forward in further altruism.
In Heather Marsh’s words
Marsh identifies the role as unstable, since a dependency bond can settle into either martyrdom or tyranny from the same start.
“A saviour is one who provides reanimation to those who have been depleted”
Abstracting Divinity
Examples
- Everyone begins here
- Being held, nursed and spoken to is reanimation provided by a saviour, which makes the behaviour ordinary rather than exceptional.
- The fork
- Once a dependency bond forms the saviour becomes either a martyr or a tyrant, and the starting position does not determine which.
- Escape has a cost
- Avoiding endosocialism often requires isolation from those helped, leaving them with a debt to pay forward instead.
How others use it
Saviour complex and white saviourism are widely used critiques of help that centres the helper, with a substantial literature on international development and voluntourism. Karpman's drama triangle places rescuer alongside victim and persecutor as rotating roles in dysfunctional relationships, which is close to Marsh's fork. Research on helping relationships documents recipient reactance and the threat to self-esteem that unreciprocated help creates. Marsh's contribution is to make the reflection the destabilizing element rather than the helper's motives, so a saviour with entirely good intentions still produces the dependency bond, and the outcome depends on the energy flow rather than on character.
Sources
Defined in the Binding Chaos series glossary, with the saviours material set out in Abstracting Divinity.
Recommended reading path
Then read in full: Abstracting Divinity.
A suggested order for exploring this corner of the theory.